How To Heal Your Inner Child

When you hear the phrase “inner child” what comes to mind? Do you think about the times where you were a little kid, and how your family dynamic was back then? Maybe it was that everyone was close knit, and got along, and it changed over time as you've gotten older. Or maybe, no one was really close at all, and you never had the chance to experience those “family ties.” Whichever scenario you resonate with, how has the little girl/boy in you dealt with this emotionally? And how does it affect the person you are now?

Your inner child is part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on mentally and emotionally. Some of you may have experienced a number of traumatic events during this time period, and did not have the full brain development to process these events.

What triggers your inner child?

An unmet childhood need for love and safety is the focal point to triggering your inner child the most. Essentially, the early years of your life is what most shapes you and the caregivers that you are surrounded by.

So what does this look like for you as an adult?

Individuals with a wounded inner child can often experience a chronic feeling of emptiness, helplessness and hopelessness. This might feel like you are existing with a false sense of self (imposter) and that your life lacks a sense of aliveness. In addition, you may also feel deeply disconnected/detached from others. If there is a lack of love/protection in your upbringing, there is a higher chance for you to have trouble with relationships and impulsivity (fight or flight response) as an adult.

What are inner child wounds?

Journal Prompts to heal your inner child:

• Write a letter to someone who hurt you

• What is something you would do if you were not afraid?

• Who is someone that inspires you?

• What is something that inspires you?

• What are you most proud of?

• What is something you need less of?

• What scares you the most?

• What brings you peace?

Your inner child affects who you are today more than you think. Take some time this week to sit on some things that have been troubling to you, and work on addressing those traumas. Most importantly, if you don’t want to do it alone, have that conversation with someone you can confide in, and seek a therapist! There is nothing wrong with going to therapy, in fact I have seen it help a lot of young individuals like you and I, who just needed some clarity and guidance. Don't forget, to give yourself grace.

I, myself have only been going to therapy for 1 year, but let me tell you… it has made all the difference.

I hope you have not only enjoyed this piece, but learned something in the meanwhile. Until next time.

With love,

Mariah Banks x Our.PerspecKtive <3